waoh! i like them a lot……do u?

July 16, 2007 at 9:10 am (Uncategorized)

baby 

Maybe you’ve been babysitting forever and have lots of neighborhood families on your list. Maybe you just landed your very first job babysitting for your cousin. Whether you’re an old pro or just starting out, babysitting is a fun way to spend some time with kids while making some extra money.

Here i am sharing my very first experinence as a baby sitter. Itwas really very fun and enjoying. i love kids and as it was my first experience i tried to be very good and friendly, but some times that was not the correct and the most effective method. thats why some times i tried to be firm and strict , then the baby, my neice  started knowing me more. some of my rules are flopeed but most of the things worked very nicely, as i was just new and i didnt know much about their behavours and all. today i know how they will behave when they are hungry and when they want some thing. even though i dont have a kid, yet, hopefull soon…… but i love and want to know more and more about them. cause  sometimes it makes most of my leisure time. 

Being a babysitter is all about responsibility. As long as you’re on the job, you’re in charge. Not only do you have to make sure the kids are happy, you have to make sure they’re safe and that their needs are taken care of. but some times i become the baby and let the baby be the adult. cause they love to feed and they love to be the mom. and i aslo love to be a kid.

after a successful baby sitting day i feel so comfortable and free. and my sleep calls me to come. but i couldnt let my baby to go even in the dream.

 so, why dont you share some of yours with me. i love to read it….:)

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WomeN iN iSlaM

June 25, 2007 at 6:06 pm (Uncategorized)

I would ask you to consider two distinctly separate views regarding mankind: According to one, all men (including women) are equal, and therefore a sound social system is one that is based on the principle of absolute “equality”. According to the other, all men (or women) are different – they are different in their mental, physical and emotional qualities, they are different in the opportunities life gives them and they are different in their natural strengths and weaknesses – and because they are different, a good society is not the one based on the principle of equality, but the one based on the principle of “justice”. Just for the sake of further clarification, “equality” means that all persons should be dealt with equally, irrespective of their needs, abilities or strengths and weaknesses. In other words, according to this principle, a sound society is the one that places equal responsibilities and gives equal priveleges and authorities to its members. On the other hand, “justice” means that a person should be dealt with on the basis of what he deserves. In other words, acording to this principle, a sound society is the one that places responsibilities and gives priveleges and authorities to its members according to their abilities and qualities.

 

I would like to clearly state here (even at the risk of being misconstrued) that Islam has based its teachings on the presumption that all human beings are equal in all spheres of life, except in the case of their inherent abilities and in the case of their position in the family (or on a broader scale, the social) setup. In other words, Islam after accepting that all human beings are equal, and should be dealt with accoridng to the principle of equality, wants the society to give only two exceptions to this principle. These exceptions are:

 

  • Because human beings are different in their inherent abilities, a person (man or woman) with more abilities should have the opportunities to progress further in life as compared to a person (man or woman) with less abilities. The system adopted to insure “justice” in this sphere is quite a simple one. Islam simply advocates that there should be no artificial hinderances in the progress of a person (man or woman) with more abilities.
  • In this sense, Islam although allows a differentiation among individuals, but this differentiation is not based on the sex of the individuals, but on their abilities.

  • Because a sound social setup is possible only through strengthening the basic unit of this setup, (i.e. the family) Islam wants the family to have a well defined authority-responsibility relationship.
      • According to the Qur’an, man and woman are two units of a pair. When both are taken independent of each other, there are ceretain obvious vacuums in the mental, physical and emotional personalities of each. God has created the two in such a way that they complement each other in different ways, so that these vacuums are generally removed to a great extent. For this very purpose, God gave different mental, physical and emotional qualities to the male and the female. These different mental, physical and emotional qualities, on the one hand complement man and woman, and on the other establishes for them different spheres of activity in their interpersonal relationships.According to the Qur’an, man, for two reasons, should be the head of the family: One, because he is given the responsibility of earning the livelihood for the family (i.e. he is to strive for the provision of the financial requirements of the family); and two, because he is given the mental, physical and emotional qualities that are more suitable for this responsibility; just like women are given certain qualities that make them more suitable for responsibilities in a number of other spheres. It is only in this sphere (i.e. in the relationship of husband and wife) that God has given the man a degree of authority over the woman. Besides this sphere, both are considered equal.If the above explanation is clearly understood, you shall be able to see that Islam does not assign a lower status to the womankind, as compared to the mankind, it is only in a particular relationship that one is given a degree of authority over the other, and that too for fulfilling the responsibility assigned to him from the perspective of this life as well as the hereafter. In this sense, it is the same thing as saying that:
      • the parents (both male and female) are responsible for the well being of their children (both male and female) and therefore should be given a degree of authority over them; or
      • the teachers (both male and female) are responsible for the well being of their pupil (both male and female) and therefore should be given a degree of authority over them; or
      • the head of the state (whether male or female) is responsible for the well being of the citizens (both male and female) and therefore should be given a degree of authority over them.

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